If anyone has known me from my late teenage life to now then they know how dead set I was on not having children. I'm going to be completely honest - I had the same fear that I think crosses most women's minds which is the pain you go through during labor. My opinion of having children was a very shallow one, but none the less, it was an opinion. Personally, (and it might sound harsh) I thought they were money wasting, time stealing, snot nosed little demonic spawns of Satan. I know...again, harsh. I liked the thought of being able to do what I want, when I want. I like my undisturbed sleep, having my money to myself other than paying bills, my free time, being able to do things and not have to worry about what to do with a child and the list goes on.
Yes, all of my reasons were pretty selfish - I'll be the first one to admit that. But what's even more selfish is knowing you're not ready to have a child(ren) and do so because you believe that it's what's expected of you by society or that your nagging (but lovely) future mother-in-law wants you to give her grandchildren. It's your body, your life and no one else's decision but you and your partners. It's not a decision to make lightly even though a lot of people seem to make that decision like it's nothing and it's becoming more and more common in today's society that little to no decision is actually made when it comes to bringing a baby into this chaotic world.
